I decided that I got little satisfaction from working for somebody else, and that my real ambition in life was to work on my own terms, and start my own business. I needed to do this to work around my children but I also wanted to do this to give me the freedom I craved. In starting my own businesses, I developed many skills along the way mainly through force of circumstances but often because I knew that it was up to me to be successful.
Improved Self Belief
Being human, this was not an easy emotion to conquer. Initially, I felt more reasons to stop than to proceed. But over time, as my clients and the people I worked with turned to me more for repeat work and clients became long term friends keeping my services over many years, I realised that I was good at what I did and more importantly, I could do it! In fact, I have now learnt that all the most successful people in business totally believe in themselves. It is just not possible to be successful if you constantly doubt yourself. This self belief has helped me through the bad times, the failures, so that I can and have been able to work out how to do it better so as to achieve great success. So believing in yourself is the number one thing you can do to help you achieve your goals. If you don’t believe in yourself, who will.
Another strategy is to talk to yourself like a champion. Matt Mayberry, a performance specialist says that this reconditions your thought processes in an instant “I am the greatest at what I do,” and this also stops you talking to yourself like a victim. It does feel weird at first, but it helps to block out negative thoughts. It is a great strategy to improve your self belief and in turn encourage others to believe in you too.
Be grateful by focussing on the things that you are have or experienced everyday. Cultivating gratitude doesn’t cost any money and it certainly doesn’t take much time, but the benefits are enormous (Amy Morin, Psychotherapist). Being grateful affects our confidence in our own abilities and self respect. In 2014 the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology published a study that identified that gratitude increased athletes’ self-esteem, which is an essential component to optimal performance. Importantly, other studies have shown that gratitude reduces social comparisons. One of the worst things we can do is to compare ourselves with others but by being grateful for what I have, it has shown me that there is much to be grateful for. So every morning, as I wake, I am grateful for 3 things. Over time, I have found that this small exercise has impacted the way I think and now I seek out the positive and what I could eb grateful for in moments of difficulty.
In all businesses I have started, there was one key component initially, that wanting to learn as much about it as a possibly could. I felt this because I was passionate about what I was doing, and still am. My brain became a sponge, wanting to absorb as much as I possibly could about the How, Why, When and Where of other people’s experiences and techniques. One of the biggest confidence-boosters in business is feeling like you know your stuff. So on a daily basis I read books to improve me, I read blogs about improving my business techniques and watch videos of inspiring individuals. There is always something to learn and to take forward. If you don’t know where to start, go to our good friend Google. Often there is information for free although you can spend to learn more, this is not always necessary. Subscribe to blogs written by the experts in your niche. Amazon now have a kindle club where you can read 10 books a month (without purchasing them) for a small standing order. A brilliant start. So invest in some education for you whether it be books or even a business coach and you won’t look back.
What you put into you, will reap great returns in how you project your business and promote yourself to everyone else. Consistent learning and confidence are a winning combination.
Know exactly what where you are going with your business
This may sound obvious but I have come across so many people who have no goals or ambition of life never mind their work life. You really do need to have a clear vision and goals of where you want to get. Imagine life like a car journey. You would never get in the car and drive aimlessly, you drive because you want to get somewhere and know the destination. So this is what you need for your business too. Have goals, visualise them and then break them down into small steps that you can work on to achieve the bigger goals. As you confidence improves, you will realise that you can not only achieve the goals you set but achieve them very, very well. So, set goals, forge ahead, and never took your eyes off that goal.
Don’t be negative and don’t worry. Remember: you’ve done your homework, you’re good at what you do, and everybody starts at the beginning. Don’t allow the “what’s”s to enter into your mind. Celebrate the victories however small they are. Overnight successes are so rare. For most of us, success comes after a period of hard work. Barry Moltz, author of “Bounce! Failure, Resiliency and the Confidence to Achieve Your Next Great Success,” says that failing can give you confidence. Failure is part of the natural cycle of business. So after a failure, or a client who didn’t move forward with you, or whatever happened that was not expected, don’t think of it as failure. Everything is a learning experience, something to learn on to take forward and improve so that you reduce the chances of it happening again. Be confident in what you do: you have set your goals, and you have the knowledge to achieve and know the mechanism by which success will come to you. It is there for you to have.
If you need help with your business or are looking to start your own business, do contact me as I can help you.